Learn to apologize and forgive. Some people think that it shows your weakness, but only those who have great self-confidence can sincerely forgive and apologize.
The apology does not make you look wrong, it has nothing to do with your ego, to be or not to be right. The apology makes you more powerful.
If someone thinks you should apologize, maybe you should, You lose nothing. If that person is outraged or angry with you that's their problem, not yours, and you can make the other person feel better by apologizing for something you may have done.
The apology is not about protecting your right to be right. Leave your desire to be right and you will be a happier and a more liberated person. Would you rather be right or happy?
Show your strength apologizing and forgiving around you. Apologize and forgive with love and compassion, sincerely from your heart.
When a person finds difficulty, tell them you're sorry, and they will feel better. You feel better when someone cares about your pain. If the problem you caused you directly or indirectly, intentionally or unintentionally, your apology is inescapable.
The apology has nothing to do with how you think that things should be, you probably thing that the other person should not feel that way. Your brain justifies yourself automatically, so apology for any of your actions that has caused any inconvenience. What matters is not your ego and to be right but the relationship itself. Ask yourself and the other person: How do you want this relationship to be?
I want to have a good relationship with you.
I want our relationship to improve.
What kind of relationship do we want to have?
Do not let someone else drive you to your negative emotions. There are people who are always angry or upset, try to limit the interactions with them, but maintain a cordial relationship, do not let the person cross your boundaries and take you down, your apology comes from a state of power and integrity.
Your apology does not give power to the other person, the apology comes from your inner power.
Forgive the mistakes you made in the past, now it's time to redeem from them. You made mistakes and hopefully you learnt from them, but going over them drains your energy and makes you live them again. Your body does not differentiate a real from an imaginary thought. Create a vision of what you want in the future. Imagine yourself when you were a happy child, and talk to yourself with kindness and compassion, picturing that young child. Allow your child to be happy and follow your dreams. Forgive your past, enjoy the present moment and dream your future.
There is no reason to ever have the same thought twice, unless you like having that thought. David Allen
Leave the affected role, let the problem dilute in your heart. Resentment is equivalent to drinking a poison and expecting the other person to suffer. It only damages you, maybe the other person even forgot about it, because their brain justified them and they moved on with their life.
Practice to forgive faster and faster, because the bitterness does not help you at all, only sabotages your success. Allow yourself to forget and move on. Lighten your load. "I forgive the situation, I forgive you, not for you or for your actions, but to improve my future." Feel free. I let it go and recharge your energy.
Your brain remembers the pain of very vivid way, why? so do not ever put your hand in the fire again, it's a survival mechanism. Remembering the pain brings the pain itself. The sooner you forgive, the less pain you will suffer. Stop imagining that you burn and focus on your trip to your wonderful future. At first it will seem difficult but with practice, you can forgive and move forward quickly with good relationships, no obstacles, no distractions, and carrying a much lighter load all around.